Tuesday, February 4, 2014

You're Going to Be Okay

'It's going to be okay.'  Sometimes those are the most comforting words that someone can say to me in the middle of a stressful situation. Not that it makes the stress go away but it is a reminder that whatever it is I'm going through is not permanent and we will figure out a way to make it through. I especially appreciate it when it's said in the middle of a big hug.

The book 'You're Going to Be Okay' is like a good hug from a girlfriend with encouraging words and not just a pep talk, but real solutions to dealing with difficult issues in your life.

We are going through a stressful situation in our lives now and this book spoke so much to my heart about how I can deal with it well. You don't have to be desperate and at your wits end to be able to benefit from it, and it's probably better to read it before going through stressful times so that you can be better prepared.

There are too many things to list that I gleaned and took from the book to list here, it will likely be a book I return to as I'll need a reminder of all the things I'd learned. One thing I'll mention is how she discussed our emotions and recognizing what is going on in our brain. She said to 'Stop, Drop, and Roll.' So now when I encounter a stressful situation instead of just freaking out,  I'm going to try to stop and take a deep breath and notice what my body is doing-do I feel tears welling up? Is my heart beating fast? Next I'll drop the expectation that has just been shattered and acknowledge what is making me feel stressed. Then I'll start to consider how I'm going to roll with this new situation.

I gained many tools for dealing with stress through the book. It's steeped in scripture and each chapter is written in such a readable way. I felt like my girlfriend and I were chatting together as I read it, Holley comes across as friendly and engaging, challenging and humble. Just the kind of friend you need on difficult days.

I received a copy of this book through the Revell Blogger Review Program, in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Sweet Dreams

At night we usually have a little bedtime routine we do with L. We read a few stories, sometimes a Bible story, tell a pretend story, pray, and sing Silent Night and Amazing Grace. We use the pretend stories as a way to transition from the fun reading book time to turning off the light and one more little story. We usually make the story about L. Hubby does great stories and has a whole line up of characters and voices. My stories are more simple, have a little moral to them (brainwashing) and somehow often have to do with food. Sometimes I pause let L add in the details-like the classic story of Mommy and L go to Publix:

Mommy: "...and L was a good boy the whole shopping trip and stayed in the cart and didn't fuss. So then mommy and L went to the bakery and L picked out a..... "(pause for him to answer)
L: Sprinkle!
Mommy: ...cookie. And then L let Mommy have a little bite too. The End.

I hope I never forget tonight's story-

Mommy: Okay tonight I'm going to tell you 'The Story of a Precious Little Boy Named L.' Once upon a time there was a Precious Little Boy named.... (pause)
L: L!
Mommy: He had a Precious Little nose (cue-kiss nose), and Precious Little curls, and a Precious Little tummy and (no pause, but he just chimes right in)
L: and a Precious Little Mommy!
(Cue Mommy melting)

Seriously, we are so blessed with this boy. We can't imagine life without the joy he brings to each day and we are so thankful to God for him.